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10 Effective Tips For Building Better Relationships – Part 3

Alright… the last of the series! In Part 1 & Part 2 we discussed 6 ways you can implement now to help you with your relationships. This is the last in the series, so let’s get into it,
shall we?

LOVE & CHAMPAGNEHere are 4 more tips:

7. Thrown Down A Challenge

Sometimes, to motivate people, you gotta throw down a challenge ESPECIALLY if they are of the FIRE elemental. Now if you have not heard of the personality elementals (also referred to as colours), I highly recommend you look into that.


They will respect you for it and if the challenge is accepted and accomplished, you relation will go up! (Hint: It’s like a shared frame)

8. Be Sympathetic With Their Ideas & Desires

Yes, I need to say this here. Be sympathetic. Make sure you are listenting to the person. Don’t be misguided or distracted by their delivery of the message (if they stutter, have an accent, incorrect grammar…)

Focus on the message they are trying to deliver to you and BE sympathetic.

Then encourage.

9. Become A Good Listener

I heard that many times and many times they fail to say how. Well here is how you become a good listener (Network Marketers pay special attention):

  • SHUT UP when they are talking
  • Don’t interrupt because if you do, it says that ‘what you are saying to me is not important and here is how it is…’
  • Don’t be distracted by noises or visual cues in your environment… maintain visual contact if face-to-face
  • BE PRESENT (don’t think about what you are going to feed your cat when you get home or when you get off the phone)
  • Don’t solve their problems… they want someone who will listen.
  • Nod, every now and then.
  • Mirror and match their body language, tonality and pace. Then lead.
  • Identify their elemental (so that you can build more rapport)

I hope you get the point here. It is about them not you.

10. Show Respect To Other People’s Opinions

Let’s face it… now everyone in the world will have the same opinions as you. We have to learn to have an open mind. As Jerry Clarks put it, your mind is like a parachute, it needs to be open to work!

Anyways I hope you enjoyed the series and taking action on this!

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16 Responses to 10 Effective Tips For Building Better Relationships – Part 3

  1. Shalonda Gordon November 29, 2011 at 8:45 PM #

    John I loved the way you started this post.. due to the fact that I’m FIRE.. RED.. Ruby.. whateva you want to call me.. and YES.. I love a good challenge.. Yet I could also relate to the listening part.. you know a Lady always loves it when a man listens.. Ahhhh.. lol.. Keep Smiling

    • johnmoussan November 29, 2011 at 9:04 PM #

      Hehe! Thanks for the comment! Of course the ‘Lady’, most of the time she really does not want a solution, she just wants (and guys listen up here!) the other person to be immersed in the experience, to FEEL THE FEELINGS. Red, Ruby, Fire… of course you do! :)

  2. Lilach Bullock November 30, 2011 at 4:33 AM #

    John more great tips. It’s so important to listen to your customers. In fact by listening we can actually give them what they want. From learning more about what my readers want me to write about (rather than what I think they want me to!) my blog has grown dramatically, not just in traffic, but shares, comments etc.

  3. David Sharp November 30, 2011 at 5:55 AM #

    Don’t you just hate it when someone hogs the conversation and doesn’t let anyone else get a word in edgeways, if they spent more time listening and less time talking then they would contribute a lot more to the conversation. Like your reminder to be present in the conversation, great tip.

  4. Terry Petrovick November 30, 2011 at 7:56 AM #

    These are great tips for building better relationships both in business and in our personal life. thanks for sharing


  5. Val Heisey November 30, 2011 at 6:58 PM #

    John, awesome post – part 3. Personality types play a big role in being able to listen. Some people have to learn to listen and others, it just comes naturally. In any case, it is a critical skill necessary to improve relationships.

    • johnmoussan November 30, 2011 at 8:05 PM #

      Agreed! :) Thanks for your kind words!

  6. Chante Epps December 1, 2011 at 9:27 AM #

    Your 4 tips are on POINT! Especially the part about being a good listener. That is a crucial part of really increasing your skills. Thanks for sharing!

  7. Juli Becker December 2, 2011 at 2:34 PM #

    These are great tips, John. Very insightful. Thank you for adding so much value to our community!

  8. Viola Tam December 4, 2011 at 9:12 PM #

    Hey, John,

    I love the image chosen! I also like the way you end this blog post with a post from Jerry Clark.

    I have learned so much from Jerry that I would argue that for anyone to do well in network marketing, we need to first learn from Jerry the power of thoughts! And, of course, the power in mastering how to communicate to people of different personality styles!

    I appreciate your informative post, John.

    Viola Tam

    • johnmoussan December 5, 2011 at 9:06 AM #

      Your are most welcome. I appreciate you dropping buying and leaving comments Viola!

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