Part 1 of the series (you can find it here) discussed 3 tips you can start using to develop better relationships with the people around you. Whether you have noticed this or not… the quality of your life depends on the quality and relationship of the people around you.
As a networker, marketer and a genuine human being I seek to have the best possible relations around me… anyways let’s keep going!
Here are 3 more tips:
4. Avoid An Argument
Sometime we get caught on ‘being right’. Even when you think you have ‘won’ an argument, as a matter of fact you have lost. This is because you have emotionally invoked a negative feeling in the other person… and people avoid negative feelings (in this case you).
Learn to let go of being right, instead focus on what the person is actually trying to say, why they are saying it, and how they are feelings. Sometimes people just want to be heard.
In all cases, try to find a common ground between you and the person, then build on it… be grateful for that person for they colour your life.
5. Don’t Talk About Yourself… Focus On Their Interest
Most people are completely unaware of the complex social dynamics that is happening around them… without even realising it. Well I don’t blame them… how can you be aware of something that you do not know exists?
Now if you want to be a leader, your AWARENESS is what is going to give you an edge.
Don’t talk too much about yourself. Keep the conversation light, add value and at some stage you wanna ask the other person questions about them. A well-know strategy is the F.O.R.M model.
Family. Occupation. Recreation. Message.
Ask about their family, what they do, how they have fun, etc… When you see the other person REACT POSITIVELY (body language, facial expression, louder voice…) you know that this subject is important to them.
Keep asking more question in a genuine way of caring.. this will help you build a lot of rapport.
They will magically LIKE you.
Of course… you wanna share your story at some stage… things you both have in common.
6. Show Respect To Other People’s Opinions
An opinion is always subjective unless based on substantiated scientific facts. Everyone is entitled to their opinion and I recommend that you respect that.
The process of influencing someone to change their opinion requires refined social skills and this is left to another blog post. But for now realise that a large percentage of the people that you know and will meet, will not necessarily share your opinion.
That is ok… respect that and go back to find the common ground.
If you expect everyone to have the same point of view as you or try to argue for it… you are setting yourself up for frustration.
Relationships are quite important. Today we have build up on our last post. Remember don’t argue, talk about their interests, show respect to their opinions.
Stay tuned for the last part in the series!
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